Wesleyan Christian Centre, London
Sharon Barbour
I began creating bespoke memory boxes for bereaved individuals several years ago. The idea was to curate a box filled with items that not only reflect the person who has died, but also offer grieving individuals and their families a meaningful way to gather and preserve memories.
We support people in the process of developing their memory boxes. Through guided sessions, we create a space where individuals can open up and share, while crafting their boxes. Some attendees choose not to share, using the time instead for quiet reflection—and that’s perfectly okay.
A memory box can be a comforting and thoughtful gift for someone who has lost a loved one—whether a friend, family member, or colleague.
Instead of struggling to find the right words, consider offering a memory box filled with meaningful mementos and memories of the person who has passed. There’s no “right” time to give one, but it can be thoughtful to wait a few weeks after the funeral, once things have settled a bit. This is often when initial support begins to fade, and grief can start to feel more intense and isolating.
I find a relaxed approach to creating memory boxes works best. Each one should be uniquely tailored to the individual. Include items that hold special memories or reflect the person’s personality and interests. If you’re assembling a memory box for someone else, consider gathering ideas or input from them beforehand.
Suggested Items to Include:
Photographs of special moments or places
Letters or notes written by the person who died
Small mementos or keepsakes with sentimental value
Items related to their hobbies or passions
Creative touches like artwork, poems, or handmade crafts
The most important thing is to create a thoughtful, personalized gift that honours the memory of the person who has passed.
Helpful Materials:
Wooden box
Tissue paper
Picture frame
Memorial candle
Notepad
Pack of tissues
Pack of seeds
First Steps Through Bereavement by Sue Mayfield
Additional thoughtful items, such as coffee-themed gifts, adult colouring books, or wellbeing/self-care items
Putting Your Memory Box Together:
When assembling your box, don’t be afraid to get creative—personal touches make all the difference. Start by lining the box with tissue paper, then place your items inside. I often begin with the candle at the centre and arrange everything else around it to create a sense of height and depth. A book can be a comforting optional addition. I also always include a card that explains the significance of each item in the box.